29 Days of Loving Your Spouse
My word of the year for 2016 is “relationships” and I have chosen a particular relationship to focus on each month. February is the month of love, so this month, I am focusing on my relationship with my husband. As I began to prepare for 29 days of loving my spouse, I discovered something great. These are suggestions that will work for a husband or a wife.
My husband and I have been married for 35 years. I am confident in his love for me and mine for him but, I couldn’t help but agree with Jackie Bledsoe.
“At some point after walking down the aisle, after having children, or after becoming very career focused, husbands and wives stop learning about one another and the most important relationship they’ll ever have.”
In a post he published with Michael Hyatt, Jackie shares the first three points of my 29 days of loving your spouse.
Day One of Loving Your Spouse: Choose something new to do together. This can be something as simple as reading a book in a genre you’ve never read before, or choosing a new walking trail to explore after dinner.
Day Two: Become a student of your spouse. Just like you take notes in class or during a meeting, discover something your spouse likes or dislikes and begin a journal to record them. Especially as we get older, we might not remember things like we used to, so recording his favorite white wine or dress sock designer can be helpful when choosing gifts. Give each other a new journal on this day, to begin writing all of the great things you will learn about him/her over the next year.
Day Three: Block out time on your calendar to spend together. Making your spouse as, if not more, important as book club ensures that date nights don’t get overlooked.
Day Four: Create a marriage blessings box. Every time either of you does something special for the other, write it down and place it in a jar or box. On your anniversary, pull out all the slips of paper and talk about them together.
Day Five: Have an Appetizer Date Night. Prepare 2-3 of his/her favorite appetizers and share a picnic in the bedroom after the kids are asleep.
Day Six: Choose at least one of his household chores and take care of it for him.
Day Seven: Take him/her to dinner at their favorite restaurant. Call ahead and have something special at the table. A balloon, one red rose, a favorite cocktail or drop off a gift ahead of time.
Day Eight: Pick up his/her favorite candy and lay it on their pillow at bedtime.
Day Nine: Buy a romantic greeting card and leave it in his/her vehicle to find on the drive to work.
Day Ten: Give the gift of fragrance. Suggestions include a candle, favorite lotion, perfume, aftershave or cologne.
Day Eleven: Draw a bubble bath and share.
Day Twelve: Meet at a new place for coffee or breakfast.
Day Thirteen: Give the gift of a favorite pastime. If they love to hunt, purchase something they need or want for the next big trip.
Happy Valentine’s Day! Schedule a get away at a local or distant hotel. Have champagne and chocolate strawberries waiting in the room.
Day Fifteen: Choose a movie to watch together. Pop popcorn, snuggle under an afghan and hold hands.
Day Sixteen: Bake a favorite dessert, open a bottle of champagne and look through wedding photos.
Day Seventeen: Choose something that you’ve written in his/her journal and do or give that gift.
Day Eighteen: PJ’s Day. Purchase new pajamas/nightie to wear at bedtime.
Day Nineteen: Fireside Chat. If you have a fireplace, light the fire, snuggle together and remind each other why you fell in love, all those years ago. If not, fill the room with candles.
Day Twenty: Have a quiet brunch at home with Mimosas or Bloody Mary’s.
Day Twenty-one: Meet for cocktails at a favorite restaurant.
Day Twenty-two: Prepare a fruit and cheese tray; pack a bottle of wine and have a picnic at a favorite park or beach.
Day Twenty-three: Cook his favorite meal, prepare a playlist of his favorite songs, light candles and talk about a meal you shared while dating.
Day Twenty-four: Repeat your first date. Example: See a movie, or like in our case, play carpet golf.
Day Twenty-five: Play a favorite card or board game for two.
Day Twenty-six: Surprise him/her with something they need, but don’t expect. (New swimsuit or beach towel, battery operated wine opener or extra phone charger.)
Day Twenty-seven: Get dressed up in your dressiest outfit and have dinner at home. Use your fine china and crystal to serve take out.
Day Twenty-eight: Visit a local library and sit closely together. Communicate as best you can without speaking.
Day Twenty-nine: On this Leap Day, women, propose to your husband as if the roles were reversed on that day years ago.
Of course, I realize that most of us could never do all of these in one month. Pick and choose the ones you like the most and which ones will most appeal to your spouse. Have a LOVELY February.
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